10 Tips for Self Discovery and Confidence
By Wayne Lee
1. Write down a list of your loves. Give yourself five minutes to write down all of your passions about all aspects of your life (i.e. leisure activities, work, family, finances spiritual). Once you have identified them, ask yourself how many you currently doing. If you are not following these passions, ask yourself why not?
2. Write down all of your dreams, goals and aspirations. Number them in order of importance from 1 to 5. If many are of equal importance, then give them the same number. These numbers indicate the most important things in your life.
3. Question yourself about what you want to be, do and have in life. If you have a clear vision of what you want to be, do and have, then you will gravitate towards them and attract these things in life. If you do not know where you are going in life, then how will you know when you get there?
4. Identify your fears and what scares you in life. Do one thing everyday to push through your fears. For example, if you have a fear of public speaking, make a point of talking to small or large groups weekly.
5. Practice using positive affirmations. First identify any self-limiting beliefs. For example, “I get nervous and I am self conscious when I speak in front of people.” Then reverse the negative belief into a positive affirmation. For example, “I get excited and I am confident when I speak in front of people.” Repeat these affirmations daily.
6. Identify 3 instances in your life when you have felt absolutely confident and motivated. Once you have imagined them, think of a word, symbol or color that you can associate with the experience. Repeat this process 5 times and engage all your sense memory to make it as real as possible. You will have a feeling of confidence and motivation anytime you think of that word, symbol or color.
7. Get involved in an exercise program as well as eating healthy foods. Both these practices contribute to you looking and feeling better.
8. Make a list of positive adjectives, such as Fantastic, Superb, Spectacular and Magical. Come up with as many as you can and pick a “word of the week.” Get in the habit of using that particular word as many times throughout the week as possible.
9. Take time to meditate or take personal time to relax. This aids you in clearing any fears, doubts and worries about your life.
10. Keep a daily journal and write down any events and experiences that are important to you. Also, write down any important ideas that you learn throughout the day. Reflecting upon this journal helps you create awareness of who you are and where you want to go.
7 Helpful Tips to Immediately Increase Your Confidence
by Kent Sayre
1.) Ask yourself, “What’s the worst that could happen?” Too often, we place excess importance on potential problems. We all have a certain amount of energy so let’s apply it to creating extraordinary relationships, advancing our careers and meeting our goals INSTEAD of wasting that energy worrying. Take action on what you have control over and minimize risks for what you don’t. Then invest your energy wisely.
2.) In doing something for the first time, imagine that you have already done it in the past. Close your eyes, then vividly imagine you succeeding wildly at what you are really going to do for the first time. The mind does NOT know the difference between something VIVIDLY imagined and something real. Make it vivid by involving all 5 senses.
3.) Find someone who is already confident in that area and copy them. Model as many of their behaviors, attitudes, values, and beliefs for the context you want to be confident in as you can. How can you do this? Talk with them if you have access to them. If you don’t have access to them, get as much exposure to them as you can. This could be talking to people who know the person and/or buying their products if they have some.
4.) Use the “as-if” frame. I literally love this frame of mind. If you were confident, how would you be acting? How would you be moving? How would you be speaking? What would you be thinking? What would you tell yourself inside? By asking yourself these questions, you are literally forced to answer them by going into a confident state. You will then be acting “as-if” you are confident. Now just forget you are acting long enough and pretty soon you’ll develop it into a habit.
5.) Go into the future and ask if what you’re faced with is such a big deal. This might be a bit morbid and yet this works tremendously well. Imagine yourself on your deathbed looking back over your life. You are surrounded by your friends and family. You’re reviewing your life. Is what you’re faced with now even going to pop up? That’s highly unlikely. Keeping things in proper perspective really diminishes fear.
6.) Remember that you lose out on 100% of the opportunities that you never go for. To get what you want, ask for it. I fully believe that if I ask enough people for whatever I want, I can get it. This is not necessarily true and yet it’s a useful belief. As you think about your goals and what you are striving for, how effective would it be for you to believe that all the people out there want to help you if you only ask? Whether that is true or not in the “real world” does not matter. If you find that belief empowering, I invite you to adopt it as your own.
7.) Disarm the nagging, negative internal voice. That negative internal voice can keep anyone stopped. To disarm the internal voice, imagine a volume control and lower the volume. Or how about changing the internal voice to Mickey Mouse? Do you think you could take Mickey Mouse seriously if he were criticizing you? Change the voice to a clown voice. The point is to disarm the voice by altering the way it nags at you. If I hear my own voice nagging me, it stops me. If I hear a clown voice, I laugh and continue onward.
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